One of the many roles I fill is the one of being a Mother.  It is one of my most rewarding, and also one of the most exasperating roles that any individual can ever have.  I am not only a mother, I am also a stepmom and sometimes being a stepmom is even harder than being a mom.

The amount of work and love that a stepmom is exactly the same as a mother, but society does not see it that way and your role is not as clearly defined as if you were the birth mom.   The most confusing thing of being a stepmom is that the rules are not always the same.  I am in the unique situation that I am a mom and a stepmom and I also send my kids my kids to go and visit their biological dad where there is another mom looking after them.

This gives me a unique perspective.  I know what it is like to be a mother, to be an other mother and I know how difficult it is to let your kids go where someone else has to take over your role.

Here is the letter that I send to my kids ‘Other Mom’ and the one that I wish I would someday receive.

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