Blood is not the only thing that makes you a family. Family is who you love and if you are lucky, who loves you back. Being a mother is a difficult job, being a stepmom is even harder. You are mostly judged and very rarely celebrated.
Instead of judging let’s choose to celebrate the extra people in your children’s lives who love them. There is a beautiful quote from Valerie J. Lewis in Blended Families An Anthology. “Stepparenting is like working at a late-night convenience store – all of the responsibility and none of the authority.”
Please share these with all the blended families and send them to all the stepmoms you know. Mostly they just need someone to see them, to acknowledge that it is a difficult job to do and to say thank you.