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Celebrating Stepmom Day at Practicingnormal.com

Celebrating Stepmom Day

Stepmother day is the Sunday after Mother’s Day.  Seeing as I did not have a Mother’s Day at all this year, instead of just Celebrating Stepmom Day, I am declaring the whole weekend as Stepmom weekend.  This means that I can look forward to breakfast in bed and minions to order around the whole weekend.

I’m planning on watching some soppy movies and Dad will handle all fights, requests, homework and silly nonsense.  That’s the plan anyway, we’ll see if I’m hopelessly optimistic. Read more

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Tiger Mom

The wisdom of kids sometimes take your breath away.  The happens to me a lot, especially with my little old soul:  Mouse.   If you think you know everything about being a Tiger Mom, I think Little Mouse have a much better definition.

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Celebrating Stepmoms at Practicingnormal.com

Always Love your Stepmom

Blood is not the only thing that makes you a family.  Family is who you love and if you are lucky, who loves you back.   Being a mother is a difficult job, being a stepmom is even harder.   You are mostly judged and very rarely celebrated.

Instead of judging let’s choose to celebrate the extra people in your children’s lives who love them.  There is a beautiful quote from Valerie J. Lewis in Blended Families An Anthology.  “Stepparenting is like working at a late-night convenience store – all of the responsibility and none of the authority.”

Please share these with all the blended families and send them to all the stepmoms you know.  Mostly they just need someone to see them, to acknowledge that it is a difficult job to do and to say thank you.

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Stepmom Ideas that must die from Practiicingnormal.com #parenting #stepmom #blendedfamily

Outdated Ideas about Stepmoms and Blended Families

I am a mom that sends kids to a house with a Stepmom.

I am also a Stepmom.

This gives me a unique perspective of the role of a Stepmom from both sides.

According to the TIME magazine’s article Amazing Moms of the Animal Kingdom, Meerkats live in packs of about 20, dominated by one mating pair that produces two to five pups in a litter, with up to four litters a year. In a group of meerkats with so many new pups, it is often the aunts and sisters of the group who care for the young. After 21 days underground, the pups emerge to join the foraging party, where they learn the skills needed to live in the Kalahari Desert.

If we lived in a society of meerkats every mother that is able to help raise your pups would be celebrated, but we do not live in a society of meerkats and raising kids is no longer the responsibility of the community as it was ages ago.

Being a stepmom is one of the hardest roles on earth.  You are always walking a tightrope with huge precipices on either side.  With practice to you turn into an acrobat, but there is some preconceived ideas about your role as Bonus/Extra/Stepmom that do not help and really must die.

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First day of school

First Day of School

We had an eventful first day at school with Little Mouse.

She is going to school for the first time this year.  Up to now she was still in kindergarten and this is her first year of going to ‘Big School’ with her sisters.  This is the fifth time that I have to say goodbye to a little one going to school so you would think that I would have everything under control.

My little mouse is the my child that always test my limits and surprise me.   You would think that with five kids and three households with six parents that all need to get along I cannot be surprised anymore.   (You would be wrong.)  Little Mouse is an old soul and her unique life is a bit chaotic.   If all the kids are home the house is full of loud noises, laughter and shouting.  If she is the only one home when the other kids are visiting their other parents the house is really quiet.  Her life is always going from one extreme to the other.  This is her normal.

The other side of her normal is that her mom is either really busy or she has enough time to spend quality time just with her.   The first day of school was one of the days where the Little Mouse fell through the cracks of the craziness that is our lives. Read more