Always Love your Stepmom
Blood is not the only thing that makes you a family. Family is who you love and if you are lucky, who loves you back. Being a mother is a difficult job, being a stepmom is even harder. You are mostly judged and very rarely celebrated.
Instead of judging let’s choose to celebrate the extra people in your children’s lives who love them. There is a beautiful quote from Valerie J. Lewis in Blended Families An Anthology. “Stepparenting is like working at a late-night convenience store – all of the responsibility and none of the authority.”
Please share these with all the blended families and send them to all the stepmoms you know. Mostly they just need someone to see them, to acknowledge that it is a difficult job to do and to say thank you.
Did you know that Stepmother day is the Sunday after Mother’s day? The problem is that almost no one knows about it. So tell your friends, your family and make sure that your husband remind your stepkids and if no one remembers celebrate yourself. Without your support, your blended family would more likely than not fall apart.
I see you and you are worth it.
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Oh, you SO need to read a book I just finished: Undone by Michele Cushatt. She is a stepmom, and she does such a good job talking about the challenges of a blended family and the grace of God that makes it all work. I’ll be putting out a book review of Undone on Friday (Lord willing!). I was happy to see your blog over at Titus 2 Tuesday.
Thank you for stopping by. I’ll look out for the book review.
I didn’t know there was a step mother’s day. That is so awesome! I don’t have a step mother but I’ve always thought about this. I’ve watched Stepmom at least 100 times and it breaks my heart in the beginning.
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Almost no one knows about Stepmom day, but if you think about it, it makes great sense. A stepmom has all the same duties as a mom and yet the children never spend Mother’s Day with the Stepmom. Stepmom is a great movie. Thanks for stopping by.
These are wonderful! I’m not a stepmother myself, but my daughters have had two. I think it’s SO important to demonstrate respect for that relationship. As I tell everyone who will listen: I thought I had enough love for one baby when I was blessed with twins. In the same way, my daughters have plenty of love for two (or three!) mummies.
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What a great attitude Sadia and a wonderful way to explain things. I will have to remember that. Thank you for stopping by.
As a step-dad to a teenager I appreciate your post. We are all in it together
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Love these! I have a stepmum who I love, she was a wonderful replacement mum.
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Hi Mariet
I’m a step mum and it wasn’t easy in the beginning. I have two children and my husband has two children. Fortunately, the children were in late high school. I found that as they became adults and had children of their own, I showed them how much they all meant to me and we have a lovely blended family now. Thank you for your post – step parents are sometimes forgotten.
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Thank you for stopping by. I think it is much harder when you start your blended family with teenagers. It’s wonderful to hear from another blended family.
Such fabulous quotes x
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I had not idea there was a stepmother day. Interesting to know. I’m not a stepmother but my father in law did remarry a few years ago and so we do have a stepmother that we love in our lives.
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Aaah such lovely quotes! This post makes me a little sad… I’ll bet there are a LOAD of step-mothers who richly deserve the appreciation and love from their families. Such a shame it’s not as forthcoming as if they were the ‘natural’ mother. Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday x
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Oh I absolutely love these and I am sending my mother the link to your post. I love it. Thank you so much for linking up to Share With Me. Have a great weekend. #sharewithme
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Those are lovely sentiments, Stepmums definitely get a bad press don’t they x
Stepmoms are so underrated! What a lovely idea to have a step mother day, they certainly deserve the recognition too. Love these verses….especially the fairy godmother one!
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This is beautiful. I’m not a step mom yet, if ever, and there is no step mom for my boys yet, if ever, but if that day comes, I hope we will celebrate each other. Its a hard role that deserves more credit.
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Brilliant! I’d not heard of the Step Mum’s Day before. I think you’re right, it really is one of those tasks which go unappreciated and must be extremely hard!
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I’d never heard about Stepmother Day before, but will telling everyone I know now. Every family should be celebrated.
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So brilliant. Love all of these and will be sharing them too. Thanks for linking up at #sharethejoy this week x
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I will definitely share this with all my friends who are stepmoms! Awesome!
I’ve been a stepmom for 30 years now. It’s had it’s ups and downs, but on the whole, it’s gone pretty well. But still, it’s nice to have a little shout out. And shout out to MY stepson who is a stepfather himself and is rockin’ it! #InspireMeMondays
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What a great post. I know of lovely step parents, but my Step Mother was always in the same category as Cinderellas evil Step Mum! So sadly I cannot award her with a day! But there are plenty out there that I know do deserve the joy of it all! Thanks so much for linking up with #MMWBH x
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I didn’t know that there was a Stepmother’s Day. I think that is a great thing. I am sure that it is not easy to be a stepmom.
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Thanks for sharing with us this week at Bloggers Brags. I am pinning this to our group board on Pinterest. Have a great week!
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Thank you for teaching us about Stepmoms Day! I definitely want to share that this year, and your posts will be great for that. Thanks for linking up at MeetUp Monday – Hope to see you there again this week!
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Hi again~ Having met my biological mother, I can say, without a doubt, that there is plenty of room in one person’s heart to love multiple “moms.” Being around my biological family who missed out on decades of my life just makes me appreciate my adoptive family even more. Visa versa. I imagine it would be similar if I were in a stepfamily (which technically I was because I had 2 “half siblings” from dad’s previous marriage).
I second you on the idea that stepfamilies need lots of community support. I would say, they also need a reason to stay together outside of themselves. For my family, it’s our “ours baby” Gabriel and the fact that we had so many struggles within our family that really commandeered our sense of solidarity.
I struggle with this subject because of my daughter’s “stereotypical” stepmother. My heart aches for those hurting stepfamily members. I think stepfamilies can engender a spirit of sharing our burdens with one another and ministering to our Global Family. Let’s be representatives for the “Love of Man.”
Best wishes to yours~
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